Friday, November 4, 2016
Back in 2013, a free spirited, young, hopeful and single lady once agreed with friends to take part on a Chinese belief kind of bustle to know when she’ll get married. This commotion will tell you what age you’ll marry and I happen to believed it ever since. The game starts by simply widely spreading your palm and right then, decide which age you prefer to get married – say for example, at 26 then make a circling motion for 26 times while holding a necklace on your other hand over your other hand’s palm (you can ask somebody’s help if you want) and once the pendant’s necklace stops from moving in circle… Viola! That’s the end of the game! You got your marrying age and you can expect nothing or held on to that firmly (secretly).
So what really made me expect that today is the day to say goodbye to singlehood? Well, it was my imagination luring me to believe this trend of wedding events, in the brood of 3, my little brother got married first on December 28th and our older sister tied a knot on the 28th of November so what’s wrong with me getting married today, October 28th, at the age I’ve been decided to get married by a pendant at freakin’ 26? Emairite? SO okeyyy. I don’t want to entertain other thoughts than believing it will all be fine. It may be soon or never mind… that thought of marrying someone is really far from my agenda right now. But will sure make me all kilig kung totoo man.
And so, the date of my wedding day has come and I am not attending.
With so much love to give,
Sunday, April 10, 2016
To stay true to you, posting in a day like this has been a struggle lately because it’s not probably new to many that I am busy as a bee in the office and in most times spent my time sleeping in front of my phone streaming drama series. So yey! I made it this time! I am no longer just thinking in my head the issues I want to post but now writing them down, making a memory for myself to collect on days just like this, that is, senti and full of desire to make something productive. Get to own the whole night by thinking issues in my head to be organized somehow. And because I have so many things going on –bear with my randomness because my emotions
will just pop out from here to there. And see I barely backspace to get me to the point so let's make a start!
Currently I am sipping my now warm coffee latte from 7ate9 Cafe. This
is not my usual coffee tastes like and I really don’t order coffee in coffee shops because I love the fruit juices and teas, but since I got broken hearted after knowing the coffee shake from my go to Family Mart is not yet available so I resorted with thrice the price of my regular coffee. Because I just badly need one!
But what I really want to talk about is not how thrifty I am because that’s something I am not consistent about for almost a year now. If the cctvs’ are in place in God’s office then only He could see me going in and out of Forever21 and H&M buying the clothes who knows if I can even wear in a hot and most times humid place like Philippines.
Lately, I am always finding pieces that are thick and fashionably odd to wear in the streets of Metro Manila –WHY? Because I am planning of going to some place windy and cold. Yes, I am preparing to leave some time in July. I already handed over to my bosses my resignation letter. I even cried while telling my immediate supervisor that I will have to do this because this isn’t just a dream for me but also for my parents’ and I can't blow the chance off. They wanted that at least one of their kids is working overseas so that they can travel far from one kid’s place to another. My parents just wanted one and I don’t think I have that choice not to say YES because I am the sole single in the brood of three. I am also in an age where I should be thinking far more than I’ve been just merely thinking of doing and that is saving for the future because we really wouldn’t know what’s in store for us all so when my parents’ are still able to support that dream then I have to really go. But can I just say my fears? I wish I am that fully committed of flying out and really be far far away from home. I mean afraid in that sense that I’ll be pursuing something that I do not just personally choose to take. It’s quite ironic for me to be listening to my parents request and advise that I am now in a decision to do it and that this has been long overdue for months now. You know I’m not the listening type to others’ thoughts so me following the advice of the third persons in my will to fly is pushing myself to be in more deep thought if I should really be going faaaaaaarrr… Hmnnn am I that different? So let me consider the pros and cons of independence living overseas:
1. My life will definitely change and it will be full of diversity. It
will be exciting, I know!
2. I can finally wear my warm clothes hauled from my Seoul trip last March.
3. A chance to meet my will be partner in life.
4. A chance to be fully committed on something is there i.e., get good
grades; find part time jobs, real work after a year, save money for my
parents to come visit me, citizenship after two years?, save for my
own flat perhaps, save for more travels with family and friends, save
for my dream hostel to be built in there.
5. Be a person who has not only have the money to share but also life
lessons from various experiences.
6. I’ll be left with what ifs if I will not be pushing this year or next.
1. What if the right partner isn’t in the place I’ll be going into!!!?! Ottoeke?!
I cannot continue writing… actually, I only have one worry in mind. So I have to go where there’s room for more possibilities and chances… magis, as we call it in my alma mater. Whew! So if I were to sum it up, I'd say that the earlier we sort out the priorities in our lives, the better it is. With this, half of the probability of ending up happy, could be tired but productive is already at a guaranteed 50%, I think.
And that's about it. It is always good to share.
Till next time,
Sunday, March 13, 2016
Now that I am turning 26 and be facing a lot more life changing decisions, I give you the best of learnings learned through my 7days travel in a foreign country, South Korea.
1. Secure your dollar prior going to the airport or you'll find yourself get scammed (yes, I almost bought @50! Whew!) by the very people working in the airport. So prepare for your pocket money 5 days before the flight so you can still compare from different offerings. Note: You are buying $ when what you have is your own ccy BUT they will quote you with rate for selling. Yes, it is how business works. Most likely it is a 0.50 difference and buying is lower than the selling. So exchange with the lowest possible rate or get frustrated like me. 😑 TIP: BDO may offer the lowest but you should have an account with them (w/c I don't have) and travel documents before they can sold you their $. So go for bank like EAST WEST, no need to be an account holder and just provide at least 2 IDs; OR with lesser hassle go for Western Union! They sell $ slightly higher by 0.20 vs. local bank rates. 🤔
2. Prepare at least 1/4 space from your luggage because that space reserves for the ones you left behind. Hahaha
3. Make it a habit to pack some snacks so you will not starve waiting for your flight in the airport. This will also save you from buying the overly priced snacks in the airport or in the foreign country you are staying.
4. Follow your guts. To put it simply, go for what you think is the best route when going back or to the airport of course back it up with couple times of research. You can't just be following what others have told you to do.
5. Make a screenshot of your itinerary and a photocopies because gadgets may not be useful if it's dead right?
6. When you are the type who shops aimlessly (like the one talking), bring only 3 day sets of outfits because you know, you want them badly to be worn! This is also a form of excuse that you are actually on a hauling! Haha!
7. Don't be shy to ask around for directions and to take your pictures. Make it brief and say your thanks (in their local language) afterwards.
8. Don't make a very tight itinerary that you have forgotten the very purpose of your travel, chill out/refresh/relax... Or you'll see yourself exhausted and disappointed because itineraries are not as always being followed. Ok? So chill.
9. Find a hostel that offers slightly different from the others. My point? Look for what's not the usual breakfast (toasted bread and jam); Look for a hostel which offers free laundry and a hostel that loves and appreciates the reason why you're in solo backpacking because most likely they will be more accomodating. You can see that in the reviews of their ads in agoda and hostel.com
10. Take selfies with people. It will be a great experience if you can ask the people you've just met and who have been a good help to you for selca i.e., your landlady; roomates and the residents.
11. Talk in their native language. Because that way they will not be intimidated by your english and/or accent when you're actualy seeking help so no matter how awkward it may sound -say your greetings first then continue your english then give your thanks back in their language. They will find it cute and COOL that you tried.
12. Get as much sleep during your stay because your body should also be set on a vacation mode. Sleep more than 8hrs.
13. Allot time in going to far places especially if that requires you to follow schedules. (This is more like a reminder for me)
14. If you take selca or video when others' are "maybe" watching, be confident! Stay shameless because it will be part of the unforgettable memories I tell you!
15. Stay connected with family and friends back home or even those not home. This will help you not to feel lonely in case you're self pitying since you don't have a companion. Remember, you are just away and technology is there to fill in the gap.
16. Experience the ones you have researched to be awesome! Especially the FREE ones!
17. Give out some treats for the family and friends who have been your constant companion virtually while you were having a great time with your solo adventure. Spread good vibes!
18. Make a list of things you want to purchase before flying off to the foreign land! This will save you from hoarding so much.
19. Bring lotion. This I have forgotten during my trip like whattttt I may be using the popular CC Cushion but underneath my clothes it is all so dry skin.
20. Kill time in a nice and trendy cafe. This is killing many birds with one stone because you get to pay for the drinks but you get to have wifi access/ alone time/ good air conditioning and a perfect place to take a picture.
21. Make time for researching before you say goodbye to your country of residence. This will ease your fright on going solo.
22. Turn on your spotify and listen to your songs of choice. This way you may find friends in your dorm.
23. Prepare your outfits before sleep. This will already guarantee that tomorrow's itinerary will be a success with rainbow colors!
24. It is always customary to follow rules or *values set by the country/city you are in so OBSERVE the locals on how they finish their food, do they bring to the trash bin and segregate the food wastes from the kitchenwares or do they take off they're shoes whenever entering a restaurant or a home. And if you aren't so sure, it will not hurt you asking anyone especially if your motive is to obey the their practices.
25. Don't monitor your expenses on a daily basis because that would only turn into not so cool trip. Better if you can set a separate budget (which I mean in cold cash) for food ($10/day); accom ($10/day with free breakfast, yes this is possible in agoda!); transpo ($5/day) and for shopping and fees you intend to go to i.e., entrance fees to theme parks or museums.
26. Make the best out of it! Go YOLOING!